Love and Let Go

A thought occurred to me the other day, about relationships: one of the hardest things to deal with for ended or past relationships is accepting that your entire role in this person's life was to get them ready for someone else. The idea that people are in your life for seasons, which can be short or long, is a crazy idea, but true. This becomes particularly difficult to deal with I think when you were in a relationship where there may have been only one or two things (small or large) that were keeping the relationship from moving forward. Maybe this person had a bad habit you didn't really care for. Maybe they didn't express their emotions enough for you. While you were in the relationship, everything seemed to be in line except that one thing, and that one thing caused so many problems and arguments, to the point that eventually you and that person separated because of it. But you planted a seed. And away from you, that seed grew. You see the person with someone else later on, maybe weeks, months, years down the line...and you see that whatever issue you had with that person is no longer a factor. They "got it together." Whatever you disliked about them is now fixed, no longer an issue. And the only question you can ask yourself is, "why couldn't he or she get that right when they were with me?" You question yourself. "What was wrong with me?" "Was I enough?" "Why couldn't they do that for me?" But the truth of the matter (sometimes) is that it just might have taken that relationship with you to get that other person to the point where they could change, where they could better themselves. And maybe they weren't for you. It has nothing to do with you. But that can be one of the hardest things to accept.

I say let it go. Don't think of it as something that highlights deficiencies in you, think of it as something that you could do positive for someone else, some way you could help someone else grow into the best person they can be. You are not inadequate (and they are not a liar or a jerk for not being that person you wanted them to be when they were with you). Let it go. Be happy. Move on. I know it's easier said than done, but if you can do it, it can completely free you.